Ways To Turn Off Negative Thoughts and Build Yourself!

Negative thoughts have some serious power. Negative thoughts drain you of energy and keep you from being in the present moment. The more you give in to your negative thoughts, the stronger they become. If you’re not careful, they can take hold of your mind and influence way too much of your life. So be careful, and conscious. You've got some serious power too, especially over your thoughts!
Life isn't always a party, and it doesn't serve you to ignore your pain. Neither does it serve you to dwell in and on the negative aspects of your life. Be active in your approach to stopping these sometimes endless loops of negative thinking.

It’s time to shake up your thoughts with some concrete action. It’s time to get out of your head, into the world outside of yourself.

Here are some tips for distracting your mind away from the negative, so some positive thoughts and feelings have an opportunity to slip in.

These ideas can’t replace healing whatever is causing all the negative thinking, but they will help to instill more positivity into your life, and that helps with all healing.

Smile:
This is the easiest one on the list. Put a conscious effort into smiling more. At home alone or out in the streets, at friends and strangers. Even if you’re not feeling it, show some teeth. You really can smile your way out of negativity, because the energy a smile invites back to you is almost always positive. The same goes for laughter, so if your incessant smiling turns into a hearty laugh, just roll with it. You’re straying even farther from your negative thoughts.

It’s important to remember that a negative thought, like everything else, is just energy. We have the power to shift our energy, and to change our thoughts. Within this power lives the potential to change our lives. But it takes work. It takes action.

Move your body:
Dancing takes me out of my head, and that’s the goal here. Sing, take a walk, go to the gym, spin around in circles. Just move your body. Putting the focus of your energy in your body pulls it away from your mind, from the negative thoughts taking root there.

Surround yourself with positive people:

When you’re stuck in a negative spiral, talk to people who can put things into perspective and won’t feed your negative thinking.

Read positive quotes:

I like to place positive quotes on my desktop, mirror and room as reminders to stay positive. Listen to good messages that helps you stay positive.

Watch your thoughts, they become words.
Watch your words, they become actions.
Watch your actions, they become habits.
Watch your habits, they become your character.
Watch your character, it becomes your destiny.

Help someone out:
Take the focus away from you and do something nice for another person.  Assist a friend who is down and needs help, host someone, or better still spend time with the less privilege. It took my mind off of things and I felt better for helping someone else. A great way to get out of your head is to get active with people and organizations that can use your help. There are few things as fulfilling as being of service to someone who needs it. Talk about a reason for positive thoughts!

List things that you are grateful for right now:

Being grateful helps appreciate what you already have. E.g: Good health, family, job etc.

The next time you find yourself dwelling in the negative, try one of the above suggestions to help you shift yourself into the positive. Because as powerful as negative thinking can be, positive thinking is that much mightier.

Easy Tips for Eating Healthy Without Breaking the Bank

Sure, fast food is the cheap and easy way to feed your family, but ... you can truly eat healthy without breaking the bank. Despite what you may have heard, you don't have to pay a fortune to eat healthy. Follow the right path, and you may even find you save money. To be able to eat healthy and stay true to this turn in your life, you have to be strategic and organized. 

Below are easy ways to eat healthy without breaking the bank;

1) One of the rules about eating healthy is staying clear of anything that is not farm fresh, but in reality its, cheaper and safe to mix up your organic produce with some non organic produce like sweet corn, green peas etc.

2) If you shop at a supermarket then the fruits and vegetables are quite expensive compared to the farmers market. So in order to reduce your expense try going to the farmers market to get your fresh fruits and vegetables rather than the super market.

3) Drinking water is paramount to healthy living but drinking bottled water can be cumbersome and expensive (Trust me, I know) simply buy a water bottle to reuse every-time.

4) Buying in bulk at the farmers market and freezing the produce is another way to cut cost. So fill up your freezer with organic produce you can use to make a meal or smoothie or desert, its one of the best ideas yet.

5) You need your protein, but meat and eggs can be a bit expensive if you are not up for spending money buying this produce then go for beans instead. That’s another great source of protein.

Why You Should Always Be Yourself!

“To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment” – Ralph Waldo Emerson

When it comes to being yourself, there can be a lot of pressure from the outside world as it tries to influence who you are. Living in a society that is constantly developing, it’s important for you to always be yourself from the inside out. When you deeply know yourself and the boundaries that you have set, you are more likely to experience a fulfilling and rewarding life. 

Just as you cannot love anyone else until you love yourself, you cannot be true to anyone else until you are true to yourself. Begin by not being afraid to be who you are. As difficult as it may seem at first, have the courage to accept yourself as you really are, not as someone else thinks you should be. Do not take action or pretend to be someone else for the sake of gaining acceptance.

If you want to reach your fullest potential in life, it all starts with being yourself.

Why should you always be yourself?

1.  When you are able to have a solid foundation of being you, you are establishing your own sense of identity. No matter what happens in your life, you will always know who you are. There will be times where you may feel lost or distracted, but if you have your own identity you’ll be able to get back on the right path. Without establishing your own identity, you may easily conform and lose yourself.

2.  Being yourself is all about knowing what you believe in and the values that you live by. When you are not yourself, you will take on the values and beliefs of others. This is when you start conforming to other people’s expectations and way of thinking. When you know your values and why you do what you do, you will live according to your own values and beliefs.

3.  It takes a great amount of courage when you decide to take the path that goes against the crowd. The reason why the majority of people take the broad path is because it’s easy. It’s easy to just follow the crowd. It’s more of a challenge when you stay true to yourself and establish your own identity. This challenge of always being yourself takes courage and inner strength. No matter what comes your way, you’ll know how to handle it.

4. When you are always yourself, you are more likely to have focus and direction in your life. Imagine someone who is constantly conforming to other people’s expectations. Do you think this person has focus and direction? I don’t think so. When you stay true to who you are, you are more likely to know the goals you want to accomplish and how to go about accomplishing them.

     Tips on Being True to Yourself

Be who you are, be your genuine self.

Listen to the advice of others, but make up your own mind.

Know that being 'different' is a gift.

Stand up for what you believe in and you will gain respect.

Follow your own value system and common sense.

Understand that you are enriching others by being yourself.

Benefits Of Telling The Truth In A Relationship

Truth-telling. Authentic living. Being real. These are phrases and ideals we often hear about, but do we truly understand the implications of truth-telling? The pure freedom that comes with being real? The awesome power behind authenticity?

Conversely, are we aware of the devastating consequences that comes from lies? half-truths? and misrepresentations? Both pre-meditated and unintentional…

Sometimes the reasons we don’t tell the WHOLE truth is because want people to like us and we are afraid of them knowing the WHOLE truth. Oftentimes we seek to tell ONLY what we think is needed to know so it benefits us, but doesn't hurt, anger, or drive another away.

Sometimes we are afraid to tell someone the truth about an opinion or belief we have because we are afraid of the reaction the person who has asked us. We instead should perhaps be more mindful about the consequences of the lie.

Some people wonder what would become of their relationship should their spouse find out that secret they are hiding. So, questions like “will he/she leave me if he/she knows?” or “will he/she still love me if he/she knows?”

Believe it or not, there are always more benefits than dangers in telling the truth in our relationships.

TRUST

The benefit of always telling the truth in a relationship is TRUST, telling your partner the truth at all times will build trust in your relationship, not just trust but a strong, unbreakable one. Now, if your partner knows that he/she can take you for your word, then there would never be any reason to doubt you. In fact, when you lie it goes unnoticed because he/she have come to trust you.

SECURITY

The benefit of telling the truth to your partner, at all times is SECURITY. Everyone in a relationship, especially one where love reigns supreme, needs to be assured of their security. They need to be sure they are truly loved, truly wanted, truly cherished or valued. Telling lies to a partner will never give them that SECURITY. Once they come to know you as a liar, the reaction you’ll always get is “how do I know if you’re telling the truth?” or behind you, they are telling their friend(s), “how am I sure he/she is telling me the truth?” “How am I sure he/she is not doing something else over there?” Truth is, your partner’s SECURITY is at 95% when you tell the truth to them and that is no matter what the story is.

TRUTH-TELLING TEACHES LESSONS

You can learn a lot from a difficult truth. We learn the most from our failures and the failures of others. When someone shares a truth about themselves they are sharing wisdom with you. Wisdom you can use to learn from for a situation in your own life.

When someone shares a truth with you recognize their courage and thank them. When you share truth with someone else you are sharing yourself and the wisdom you have from experience. This is the essence of friendship, sharing and learning together. I have learned some of my greatest lessons in life from hearing about and witnessing other people’s failures. I have been fortunate to have a few friendships that are open, honest and truthful allowing me to be privy to lessons in life I would not want to experience. I am ever so grateful to those people for trusting me with their truths.

PROTECTION/DEFENSE

Another benefit, why you may want to consider telling the truth in a relationship is PROTECTION/DEFENSE. So your partner knows you can be trusted, they are secured with you and all, great! You know why? Because now they can stick their neck out for you! Trust me; they will be willing to keep things that way. They will have no time for hear-say; listen to nothing anyone has to say against you or their relationship with you. Then, you hear things like “never! That cannot be my Julie.

GRACE IN TRUTH

It goes without saying that truth-telling should always be done in a gentle and respectful way. (Ephesians 4:15)  Telling a truth about yourself should be done in a way that honors yourself and the person you are telling. Speaking about a difficult truth should stay within the relationship and not used as fodder or gossip.

The last benefit that I have to share, which isn't the least though, is that telling the truth to your partner reliefs you of all heavy burden. You may not know it but keeping secrets in a relationship is a very heavy weight. You are never at rest. The next minute your partner opens his/her mouth or acts up; you’re thinking “does he/she know?”

 But the moment you know you have nothing hidden in your cupboard, dear Sugar, you’ll fly like a bird. You’ll freely express yourself without reservation. Telling your partner the truth or that little secret will further  proof one of two things, you’re truly loved and can be forgiven or you’re not for that person and you both might have to move on after the revelation.  

That thing you are hiding from your partner might be the Litmus paper to test if indeed you are meant to be. So, please share it and see if you are really meant for each other or the partner doesn't deserve you. After all, when you truly care for someone, their mistake will never change your feeling towards them.

 Questions to ask yourself:

Am I afraid to tell the WHOLE truth in some of my relationships? Why?

Are there relationships I have desire to go deeper with? Am I willing to tell the truth (even difficult ones) to deepen this relationship?

Am I in confident relationships or draining relationships? Am I confident or a drain in my relationships?

A Grateful Heart! Born To Excel!

Gratefulness is flowing from my heart, I'm lost for words to describe how grateful I am for yet another year. You are the reason I can stand today! Any good thing anyone has to say about me, it is all about you lord. You are the winds under my wings.

For He created my inmost being; He knitted me together in my mother's womb. I praise Him because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well. My frame was not hidden from You when I was made in the secret place. When I was woven together in the depths of the earth, Your eyes saw my unformed body. All the days ordained for me were written in Your book before one of them came to be!

I am called to EXCEL

My heart goes out to everyone who made my day, thanks for the wishes, prayer, calls, text, and love. I really appreciate. My prayer for you is that joy and celebration will never seize in your life.

Je suis reconnaissant et honore que dieu vous benisse tous.. Merci 'a tous!

PS ... I wish everyday can be my birthday lol.... Xoxo

Fascinating Traits Of People Born In March

People born in March are said to have some unique qualities that separate them from the rest of the people. The planet Neptune and the sign of Pisces govern the month of March. You are a natural teacher, a philosopher and a perfectionist. They have unique talents, they make good partners and they can get the most out of any situation. They strive to be successful and they are not afraid to face challenges and solve problems.

Check out some of the best traits of people born in March.

They are generous

People born in the month of March are blessed with wonderful qualities such as generosity and sympathy. Their generosity helps them win the admiration and love of other people that encourage them to continue in their disinterested acts. People born in March enjoy volunteering; they are always ready to help those in need.

They are highly intuitive

People born in March are highly intuitive and it’s practically impossible to deceive them. They sense any diabolical scheme against them instantly; therefore, they can make a really strong enemy. If you’re born in March, cultivate your intuition on a daily basis to have great powers of it.

They are talented

Everyone has talents, it’s a proven fact. The March born people are highly talented and they usually have an artistic bent of mind. They love music and fine arts. It’s not surprising that many famous artists have their birthdays in March. What talents do you have?

They are enthusiastic

These people are extremely cheerful and they have verve for life. Their enthusiasm can rub off on people around them, and they spread happiness wherever they go. They never lose heart and keep smiling even in the toughest situations. I think most of us should adopt this trait from people born in the month of March.

They are devoted

The March born people can rarely, if ever, cheat on their loved ones. They are very devoted partners and they stick to their lover during the toughest of times. They try to avoid people who think that unfaithfulness is not the end of the world. They stick to their own principles and let their partners know what they want in a relationship.

They adapt to any situation

People born in March can adapt to any terrain and situation. Give these people the basic needs of life and they will definitely survive. The ability to adapt to almost any situation is one of the strongest traits of people born in March.

They are good philosophers

People born during March are very good philosophers. They can spend a sufficient part of the day thinking over the difficulties and happiness of their lives and many other things. This quality helps them find true happiness in life and enjoy their lives to the fullest.

They prefer quietness, but that doesn't mean they are anti- social

People born in March prefer to stay away from loud people and would choose serenity and peace any day. They take time to explore and understand life and how to enjoy better. This makes them good at saying right things in public.

If you are lucky to have your birthday in March, embrace yourself and celebrate your life. You are a really unique person; just don’t stop growing and developing your personality. Sometimes we have amazing abilities but we don’t see them because we don’t explore them. What other qualities of people born in March can you name? Share your thoughts, please!

Happy New Month!

Happy New Month lovelies...Superexcited its my month! I cant keep calm lol..  I pray this month delivers to us our heart desires. Wishing you'll an amazing and miracle filled month!

XOXO