8 Things You May Not Know About Single Moms

The single mom is always looked upon by the society as a weathered woman who has volunteered to undertake the extremely difficult task of raising children on her own. though each case is different, it is often a false portrayal of a woman who, despite her circumstances, is doing an amazing job raising a child, or children, single handedly with little to no help.

In no way should the single mom's be viewed as a sorrowful case. Things happen in life, as they do to everyone, but she dusted herself off and has amassed a superhuman strength to make life pretty awesome for her family. There is no denying she has a lot on her plate, but there's also no denying she's strong and capable, and is a loving mother.

So if you happen to know a first-class single mom, praise her, hug her, and let her know she's doing a phenomenal job. And if you happen to be one, smile... you're doing an awesome job!

Here's a list of the things you may not know about single moms. perhaps you've wondered, too scared to ask in case you offend, or perhaps you are a single mom who wishes to share with others what you wish they knew.


1. She is afraid of failing:

Single mothers work hard to ensure the safety and well being of their children and themselves. They want to provide a happy home. However, unlike coupled parents, single mothers have the arduous task of shouldering that burden on their own. There's is no one to share the responsibility with if anything goes wrong. She has to come to terms with not worrying about things she can't change, and simply focus on the things she can; using her energy wisely so as not to burn out.

2. She really hates having to juggle

Watching a single mother juggling pick ups, meetings, parent teacher conferences, bus schedules, and drop offs makes you realize just how freakishly superhuman she can be. But as impressive as it may look, she finds no joy in keeping busy just for the sake of looking busy, and would prefer to remove herself from an impressive strategic manager who handles her time and task wisely.

3. She never really sleeps

Whether it's that loud bang, in the night or the phone ringing at mid night, the single mom is already on it! She is always alert, even while sleeping. Being awoken abruptly from sleep. Even daytime naps may be shallow, as she's keeping one ear poised just in case there is a call. She becomes a master at short power naps.

4. She is constantly thinking about the future

She is always thinking ahead. Surprises are not the single mother's best friend, so a little forethought will help to keep her prepared, just in case. This can be rather draining, but she feels comfortable thinking and wondering about tomorrow; planing and making decisions about the future safe in the knowledge that if things don't work out, at least she has some sort of a backup plan or at least an idea of what to do next.

5. She feels guilty constantly 

Not being able to see friends or family as often as she wishes. She's probably aware that people know and understand her situation, but that does nothing to lessen the guilt. She's used to being on top of things, so when things just don't go according to plan, or she has to let someone down, she feels the burnt of that more than anything. Yet she gives it her all and offers to be there next time. Whether or not she is is able to is another matter, but she won't give up trying.

6. She is aware of the stigma.

She is more than aware of how society views and treat single moms. She is also aware of how the world views children of single parent  mothers. However, this does not stop the single mother from being a wonderful parent who is more than capable of raising equally wonderful, happy, and intelligent children. In fact, she works doubly hard to fight the stereotypes and refuses to be pulled down by them.

7. She worries about money

This means she has to become an expert at managing her finance. Whether she has it or she doesn't, money is on constant play and rewind in her mind. she is the breadwinner, the sole provider and accountant for the household, and she needs to be on top of every penny. The pressure is on her. Whether that means getting the best bargains or coming up with creative ways to save money, she does more than her best.

8. She needs to be private

She would love to share what her child or children told her the other day, with someone , anyone, but she can't. As a single parent, she is the only one her kids can confide in and trust regarding certain private matters, or things of a sensitive nature that they wish never to leave the home. She value that trust more than anything. Instead she holds it close to her, even promising to take it with her to her grave.