Things mentally matured people don’t do in relationship

The sad reality is that we just aren't taught how to be mentally strong when faced with adversity. The good news is that it’s never too late to start. Here are 6.things mentally matured people DON’T do when it comes to relationships.

1.They don’t believe the other person will “complete” them

Mentally matured people complete themselves before they look for someone else to enhance their lives. You have to enjoy your own company first and nobody else can replace that part of you. Many people live their lives as if they were a character in a romantic comedy, and believe that they must eat, sleep, and breathe their partner. Mentally matured people remind themselves they are complete just the way they are

2.They don’t look outside the relationship to improve the relationship

Mentally matured people devote their full attention to themselves and their partner, when it comes to fixing problems in the relationship.  They don’t seek another person to fulfill their needs. They don’t become distant and justify their behavior by looking outside of the relationship to feel better about themselves. They don’t engage in destructive behavior to avoid the inevitable.

3. They don’t believe they can fix the other person

Mentally matured people help their partners in any way they can, but they understand that they cannot change the other person. Only an individual can change themself. Mentally matured people don’t live in the future and convince themselves that if only they put enough effort or time into someone, then that person will change. Moreover, mentally matured people seek to understand the other person’s perspective, before they try and offer them advice.

4. They don’t try to make relationships progress faster

Mentally matured people accept that the relationship will develop in the right way. Of course, there are ways to improve the relationship and develop a deeper understanding of one another. However, mentally matured people know deep down that they can’t force something that will take time to develop. They give up control and surrender to the natural progression of the relationship.

5.They don’t bring up the past to justify the present

Mentally matured people don’t bring up the past to win an argument or use it as relationship collateral. They try to work toward improving the relationship in that moment, instead of bringing up past events to justify their actions. Mentally matured people seek to live in the moment by understanding that the past has its place but will never solve today’s problems.

6.They don’t put the other person down to feel better about themselves

Mentally matured people understand that you don’t treat other people this way. It’s a lot easier to blame someone else for the way you act or feel, instead of looking at why you react the way you do. Mentally matured people know that the only way to have a successful relationship is to lift the other person up, not put them down in order to temporarily feel better about themselves.