Let Shut Doors Remain Shut! Don't Force Things.

Yesterday’s excellence is today’s mediocrity. Don’t worry about other people’s opinion of you. God never told you to impress them, only to love them. “Shut  Doors” we have seen the caution  sign on every door in every car, bus, train or rest room, do not hold doors open when they’re being shut.  Common sense right? Everyone should know that. I mean you could get stuck, you could get hurt. 

And it’s not even just about you; you delay the passengers on the bus going for an interview or to work!  Shut the doors and let the bus leave. The next bus is usually not too far behind.   Applying it to life: Life a journey from birth to death with all types of doors opening and closing? Doors of relationships, doors of friendships, doors of opportunities… If we were all very perceptive, we would see on every single door in our lives that same bold sign, “Shut Doors” In life and living terms, do not disrupt the doors’ activities. When they’re closing, let them close. When they’re opening, let them open. Do not force them open, do not force them close and please, do not break them down! If God shut a door, stop banging on it. Trust that whatever is behind it is not meant for you!

A lot of times we further complicate life by not letting doors be.  People have in actual fact lost their lives because they held doors that should have been shut, open. The truth is I still have trouble leaving the doors in my life well alone. I shut a door on a beautiful friendship and I kept telling myself “how can you shut a friend who wants to be there for you with no holds barred out? How can you deny yourself of the joys? I don’t get it”. Let’s just say that that second sentence played over and over again in my head and made me realize that forcing certain doors shut causes both parties pain.  Only time has been faithful enough to ease the pain and bring permanent relief. We’re friends again.

Three things come in very handy with regards to letting doors be. 

1) Perception.

2) Wisdom.

3) Self-control.

They let you see which ones are closed and which are wide open. They let you know when to be concerned and when to be unbothered. They make life pretty less complex.  Have seen cases when one friend emotionally checks out of a friendship but the other is still in it whole-heartedly, laboring and fighting for “normalcy” to be restored?

I wish I’d always had the wisdom to prevent me from having my own moments of standing between doors. Yes, I've had my own “experiences”. You know an experience made an impact on your life when years later, it’s still a point of reference.

 No one needs to repeat any other person’s known mistakes. Let the doors that need to be shut in your life be. Shut Doors and let them remain shut.  The solution to permanently numbing your pain is waiting it out. Every minute that passes is a minute closer to getting back to your normal self and hopefully a minute spent reminding yourself to next time stand your ground and reach out to people you've been blessed with.